Comments on: 9 practical tips to control porn addiction

By: Luke

Luke — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:00:37 +0000

Great examples of tools that help people to break free.

Check out this new video from Covenant Eyes about how Internet accountability can help married men and building trust in their marriage again:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WcpotyZ_oSM

By: David Wenell

David Wenell — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 00:31:21 +0000

Books by Dr. Mark Laaser are good as well–he’s one of the leading Christian counselors with sex addiction. Look him up on Amazon.com or through Faithful & True Ministries

By: shon

shon — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 02:41:24 +0000

thank you brother… great service

By: Darryl Moore

Darryl Moore — Sun, 31 May 2009 22:28:21 +0000

Thanks. All are great suggestions. Just like to add recommendations for BeSafe.com and Willingham’s book Breaking Free. I work with guys struggling with sex addiction. It helps me maintain my own recovery. This battle is not won alone and on your own. I tried for years without success. We need a closer walk with God and the help and support of other men and those cloest to us to navigate the path of recovery. The lonliness was devastating. The fear of reaching out to someone for help was even worse or it was just a way to continue in the addiction. We need love, support, understanding, acceptance, and forgiveness from ourselves and then from others. We already have it from God. We just have to learn to accept and understand it. That took me a long to grasp and I still not sure I grasp it completely. The first control tip is to get help.

By: Joe Russell

Joe Russell — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 21:37:50 +0000

This is something I’ve struggled with well before I was saved. After I was saved I tried by my own powers to stop and have consistantly failed for many, many years. I have asked guys to pray for me, I’ve told my wife it’s an issue…didn’t work.
What I have found is that Tim Elsbree is absolutely correct. The problem is not placing all these barriers and trying to live a certain way. That is religion and it does not work.
When I began regularly praying, reading the Bible (listening at work) is when this issue became very easy for me. I still struggle and have to have certain guards but what Galations 5:16 says is what I hold to: “But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.”
I recently looked at porn after not doing it for awhile and I haven’t been praying and reading the Bible recently.

By: Adam Evers

Adam Evers — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 14:12:08 +0000

@Tim

Death by Love is an amazing book. Have you heard Porn Again Christian by Driscoll as well?

By: Tim Elsbree

Tim Elsbree — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 01:31:22 +0000

Went to Mars Hill Church and learned about worship. The men there helped me realize that my struggle was worship, through Redemption groups learned what the idols in my heart were and more importantly learned who Jesus was and what he had done. I learned it wasn’t about managing my sin or stopping “wrong” behavior. It was all about looking at Jesus and accepting him and his work. A couple books I recommend are How people Change by Tim Lane & Paul Tripp and Death by Love by Mark Driscoll.

By: Bryon

Bryon — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 00:17:48 +0000

Another piece that I’ve added to the above suggestions is to avoid (as much as possible) any provactive imagery of the female body. When walking by Victoria’s Secret and other such stores at the mall I purposefully look at the floor. I cover my eyes during love scenes or lingerie comercials on TV. I’ve also enlisted my wife’s support. Anytime she gets advertisements for lingerie in the mail she makes sure to get rid of them before I have the chance to see them.

By: Adam Evers

Adam Evers — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 00:16:04 +0000

I use Covenant Eyes myself. Extremely helpful!

Recently the room mates and I have also placed a monetary value on looking at porn. If you look at porn its $20.00 in the pot. If you masturbate its $10.00 in the pot.

This has been extremely effect for us college students. We all live in a room of 6 guys and so being able to talk about it openly and tell someone when you are struggling is helpful!

By: admin

admin — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 00:15:36 +0000

Thanks Josh…I will have to check that one out. There have been a lot of services put out there to help with this but I still believe in my heart it comes down to pure inner desire to stop, continuous encouragement from the bible and then doing the typical things to limit temptation such as family computer area and keeping yourself busy. At the same time it doesn’t matter what baracades we put around the content, if a mans heart wants to lust, he will find a way. I love the accountablility portion of that software!